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Then, keep adding new rules, or increasing the pressure:\u00A0\u003C/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EGive instructions quicker\u00A0\u003C/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EUse instructions with two steps (e.g. \u0027Simon says clap twice, then spin around\u0027)\u003C/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EEveryone must do the action in slow motion\u00A0\u003C/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003ESwap it around, so people have to follow the instruction when it doesn\u2019t begin with \u2018Simon says\u2019\u00A0\u003C/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EAdd a timer and challenge the group to survive for a minute\u00A0\u003C/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EEveryone must balance on one foot whilst doing the action\u00A0\u003C/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EBefore every other action, everyone must clap once\u00A0\u003C/li\u003E\n\u003C/ul\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cstrong\u003EKeepy Uppy\u00A0\u003C/strong\u003E\u003C/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EStart with a simple game trying to keep a balloon off the ground as a team, then keep changing or adding new rules like:\u00A0\u003C/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EUse only one hand\u00A0\u003C/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003ECount how many hits you can get without dropping the balloon\u00A0\u003C/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003ECall out a colour before touching the balloon\u00A0\u003C/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EEveryone must have a turn before you hit it twice\u00A0\u003C/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EYou can\u2019t hit the balloon twice in a row\u00A0\u003C/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EOnly use your non-dominant hand\u00A0\u003C/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EAdd another balloon\u00A0\u003C/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EAfter every 10 hits, everyone must sit down \u00A0\u003C/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003ENo talking\u00A0\u003C/li\u003E\n\u003C/ul\u003E","label":"Examples of extra game rules"}]}]}],"config":null},{"type":"singleColumn","areas":[{"items":[{"gridType":"RichTextBlock","content":"\u003Cp\u003E\u0026nbsp;\u003C/p\u003E\n\u003Ch3\u003ERunning this activity\u0026nbsp;\u003C/h3\u003E\n\u003Col\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EChoose a simple game that everyone knows or can quickly learn.\u003C/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EStart by explaining the normal rules.\u003C/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003ETell the group that you will gradually introduce new rules or challenges as the game continues.\u003C/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EBefore you start, agree what someone should do if they want to stop playing. 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